* Warning: spoilers for Steven Universe up to and including the episode Reunited (the last episode of season 5) *
Have any of you seen the show Steven Universe? It is probably one of the gayest shows I have ever seen, if not the gayest. It’s a great show about an alien race made out of gems and a half-gem-half-human kid named Steven Universe. The gems are only female and are created by taking over a planet and draining it of life and resources. One gem named Rose Quartz decided to form a rebellion to save the Earth from the clutches of the Diamonds, the rulers of this alien species. Along with her followers, the Crystal Gems, she protects our planet and they decide to live here after winning the war. Rose then gives birth to Steven, dying in the process. The remaining Crystal Gems (Garnet, Amethyst and Pearl) take care of and raise Steven with some help from Greg Universe, Steven’s father.
Now that you all know the basics of the show, and hopefully you've all watched it and caught up on season 5, let me tell you about some of my favourite characters in Steven Universe.
One of the things I love about the show is something that gems can do: fusion. On Homeworld, the gems’ original planet, fusion is used between gems of the same kind as a combat tactic. Usually only the gems of the same kind - especially Rubies whose role is to fight and protect - can fuse to create a bigger and stronger version of these same gems. For example, five Rubies will fuse into one giant Ruby. However, one of the Crystal Gems is what is considered an “illegal” fusion as she is actually a Ruby and a Sapphire. Together, they become Garnet, my favourite character. Unlike normal fusions who fuse for strength, she is fused for love. They literally become one and are pretty badass. Plus, just recently, Ruby proposed to Sapphire, and they got married. So, Garnet for the win! ☺️
Another character I personally like is Rose Quartz, who is definitely at least bisexual. She clearly has some love for Pearl and was in love with Greg. Furthermore, according to Pearl, Greg wasn’t the only man Rose has loved. In fact, in a song that Pearl sings about Rose (It’s Over, Isn’t it?), she mentions: “I was fine with the men who would come into her life now and again…” Rose may not be my favourite character in the show, but she still adds a little bit more representation for the LGBTQ+ community.
Of course, we can’t forget Lapis and Peridot aka Lapidot! They may not be an official couple, however they are so cute together. In the episode Barn Mates, Peridot tries to befriend Lapis Lazuli but the latter is angry about Peridot keeping her as a prisoner, interrogating and using her. However, later in the episode, Lapis protects Peridot and Steven and then asks Peridot if she is alright. She answers with a huge smile, which makes Lapis blush. Then, in Gem Harvest, Lapidot are found farming vegetables together and they have a pumpkin who is alive and acts like a pet dog and they both try to teach it to talk, which shows that their relationship has gotten a lot better. Finally, in the episode Reunited, Lapis returned to Earth to be with the Crystal Gems and Peridot, which had me crying way too much. Lapis is a sad and depressed character, on top of being insecure and fearful of the Diamonds, but even on the moon, where she was hiding in case the Diamonds came to Earth for revenge, she was keeping an eye on Peridot. So, yes, to me and many other fans of the show, they are a couple. (Bite me if you disagree.)
The last character I want to mention is Pearl. She was left heartbroken by Rose and who, by being so hurt, breaks our hearts. Our very single Pearl who seems to have a lot of scraps of paper with phone numbers saying “call me” because people realise she is a catch. Now that she has a cellphone, will there be some calling these numbers? Maybe even the pink-haired girl who looks like Rose? Hopefully she finds love before I die watching her pine over a dead girl. I love Pearl and I had to put her in here because she adds to the gayness of the show without being too “in-your-face.” She is a normal character who goes on with her day to day alien lifestyle. Yes, there is the occasional mention of Rose where you can see she is clearly heartbroken and still in love with her, but it's still kind of subtle compared to other moments in this show.
Steven Universe is the most openly gay kids show I have watched up to now. Props to Rebecca Sugar for making this show so great for people of all ages. Hopefully, this show can help normalise LGBTQ+ people and content for kids, teens and adults alike, and help people understand us better as a community. Kids enjoying this show at a young age will most likely be more than okay when they hear that their friend has a crush on someone of the same sex in the future. This is one of the reasons why I adore Steven Universe.
Let me know what you guys think about the show!
For those of you who have been following my blog for a while, you know what QQ (Queer Questions) is and a lot of you have told me that you loved it. And for those who are new here and have not seen QQ 1, then here is what it is all about: I have sent LGBTQ+ related questions to some of my friends and some of my friends’ friends and they have sent me back their answers. I removed their names to keep their anonymity, but their answers have remained their own. This time, I have asked four new fun and exciting people. I hope you enjoy reading their answers as much as I did!
Q1: How old are you? (Teens, twenties, thirties, etc.)
P2: Early twenties.
P3: 70’s (barely).
P4: I am in my twenties, 28 to be exact, and fearing the days to my next birthday ‘cause getting older isn’t as fun as I thought it would be when I was younger haha.
Q2: What is your sexuality?
P2: Queer / bisexual.
Q3: What is your gender identity?
P2: I’m non-binary.
Q4: How and when did you figure out your sexuality and/or gender identity?
P1: I found out when I was, like, 11 that I was attracted to girls.
P2: Oof. I knew I wasn’t straight in high school, though I’ve only recently figured out that I was bisexual (and that bisexuality includes non-binary people). I’ve never felt like I fit into the binary genders; I have vivid memories of looking in the mirror in elementary school and thinking that something went wrong in the womb and that I wasn’t in the right body. I’ve been out as non-binary for around a month now.
P3: I had some relationships with women when I was at university. When I was 26, I left a 4 year relationship with a man because I figured I would keep getting attracted to women, and I didn’t want to be a married lesbian! It was at the time of the women’s movement.
P4: I found out I was bi when I was in high school, around 15 or 16 years of age. I began to watch gay porn and found myself more and more interested in it, I also struggled with the feeling of never being complete. I also saw woman as being amazing and beautiful, and felt wrong as a boy. I never loved myself and, some days, I still don’t, but I began to identify as a female about 3 or 4 years ago, right around when I also became pansexual as well.
Q5: Has it affected you in your day to day life? If so, how?
P1: When I was working at one of my old jobs, some of the other employees didn’t like the fact that I had a girlfriend.
P2: Well, I get misgendered a lot, seeing as I’m “female presenting”. It’s made my life a lot more stressful, seeing as gendered bathrooms and fitting rooms are a thing.
P3: Yes. My father’s still not crazy about it. Work has been OK. It used to be a big deal for me to tell a new friend or coworker about my lifestyle, and some friendships didn’t survive, but lately it hasn’t been a big deal.
P4: It has: the daily struggle to ask people to call me her and not him, the struggle to feel like I belong, let alone feel like I am girl when I am for the most part dressed down as a boy, especially at work, or also how I would feel if and when people discover I am trans. All of it makes day to day life a bit of a struggle but, like so many, I will survive.
Q6: How was your first coming out experience?
P1: I didn't really have a coming out experience because my sister came out the year before me. Then, one day we were in a car with my mom, and my friend Wendy said “You really think your daughter is straight?” That's pretty much how it came up that I was bisexual / pansexual.
P2: It was very low key. A girl I had a crush on had texted me, asking me if I wanted to hang out, and my mom asked me why I was all smiley, and I told her. My mom took a few seconds to process and said “Cool!”
P3: Illuminating. I was curious about kissing a woman, and then discovered that I wanted to pursue the relationship.
P4: Odd, not many reacted too harshly to me being bi, except for a friend who figured sitting away from me was a good idea. Coming out as trans, however, created an mix of interesting and expected reactions from anyone and everyone. Some accept it fully, others try to brush it off, and some continue to resist it and even try change my mind even as I write this.
Q7: What is the most annoying question you have been asked when coming out?
P1: “Are you sure that you like girls or is it just a phase?”
P2: Well, I’ve only been in serious relationships with girls up ‘til now, and I’m asked “But would you sleep with a guy?” (which I would and have), or “Ok, but can’t you just pick a gender?” (I have and its non-binary).
P3: I suppose: “What do you do in bed?”
P4: “Why?” No joke, the most annoying one I could ever get for either being pan or trans is “why?”. This then descends into the most annoying and botched explanations I can give as I become nervous and unprepared, which then only fuels most people's resistance or lack of understanding.
Q8: Would you say your look is stereotypical of your sexuality and/or gender identity?
P1: I don’t know if I dress stereotypically. I just dress however I feel like that day.
P2: That’s the thing with non-binary: there isn’t really a typical way to look, or a way to “pass” as non-binary. I suppose a stereotype is an undercut and short hair, which I have.
P3: I don’t think so, though I am way more casual than the other women in my family.
P4: That depends on your opinion. I am a cute girl. I am all about my legs, ankles, and feet, all about the heels, short skirts, the light makeup, and cute plastic colored hair ties I wear around my wrists ‘cause they ended up looking cuter that way than in my hair. On the other end, I wear a cowgirl hat, jeans and work in a warehouse where I develop muscles outside of my weekly gym workout, have steel toe boots, no makeup, tied back hair with hair pins to control my curly hair, and shorts that show my legs. All of it can scream tomboy, depending on your view.
Q9: Are you a fan of everything LGBTQ+ in tv shows, movies, music, games and books?
P1: Yes, I am a fan of LGBTQ.
P2: Ehhhh, I don’t like it when media adds LGBTQ+ people for the sake of a plot point. While I totally get how coming out stories are important to show for closeted people, I just want characters who do their thing and happen to be LGBTQ+. Also, it would be nice if creators stopped killing lesbians.
P3: Some stuff. I used to be way more into the music scene.
P4: Depends on how it is portrayed. If done right, sure! I love seeing all of that, though it can create tension between people in that room. For example, a night ago in a crime show my parents were watching, a trans girl was killed. My parents aren’t 100% okay with me being trans, and to have a tv show we are watching make an episode about it, it can and does cause a quiet tension - none of us commented at all on the episode, where as we generally do.Things like that can hit home as it created a very dark feeling. On the upside, seeing gay and lesbian characters, and even trans characters, in anything is always nice, welcoming and warming, because the truth is that we are here, and we are here to stay!
Q10: What is the best/your favourite representation of queer people you have seen in a tv show or movie?
P1: I like “I Am Jazz,” “Queer Eye,” and Ellen DeGeneres, though I could keep the list going.
P2: Brooklyn 9-9. “BOOOOOOOONE?!?!??!?!” *
P3: I liked Ellen when she did the comedy show.
I like the way Instinct portrays the gay couple.
I always like it when there are positive gay characters or moments on mainstream TV. I also enjoyed a bunch of films at Image&Nation, the lesbian and gay film festival, but I haven’t been as often since moving to the West Island.
P4: The only one that comes to mind, sadly, is “The L Word” and, even then, I’ve only watched two episodes of that. I am don’t watch TV and movies as much as I once did. I am a more of a gamer and writer/reader.
Q11: What ways do you or have you used to try to find someone to date and/or hook up with? Dating apps, clubs, blind dates, etc. In your experience, have they been effective?
P1: I never used any dating apps. I actually met my girlfriend because of school.
P2: I’ve used Tinder with moderate success and ended up making quite a few friends on there, though no romantic relationships have come of it. Most, if not all, of the people I’ve dated I’ve met through friends.
P3: I met some women at a hiking club, Les Amazones. And I’ve met women at dance clubs or dances. I enjoy going to Club Bolo, a gay line dancing club, though there are way more men than women. I’m not really looking at the moment.
P4: I am too shy to do any of that, even if I really really want a buddy to share a bed with, if you know what I mean. So, to answer your question properly, the ways stated above are not at all effective for me.
Q12: Are you currently in a relationship? If yes, how did